The love was flowing Tuesday night. Seven adults ages 27 to 36 gathered together and participated in my first Relationship Workshop. Weeks in the making, I researched the topic, pulled together many of my coaching strategies and designed what I thought would be a meaningful evening.
I couldn’t have asked for a more insightful group to come together and explore the topic of relationships, discussing and brainstorming on the challenges of living in a city where love and partnership can be elusive.
We discussed the qualities of healthy, loving relationships. We compared our ideas with what the experts say. Proactive questions were asked; honest, contemplative answers were given. The participants were willing to expose the rawness of their feelings. The environment was safe, respectful and sacred, thanks to the lovely couple who offered their home to host this event.
Here is what I learned form facilitating: young adults in this age range are fearless when it comes to honesty. Where it would have been easy to speak in generalities, they got personal. They were willing to be vulnerable in order to tap into a reservoir of possibilities. Honesty can be uncomfortable, but it is essential for growth and forward momentum.
Some thoughtful outcomes:
Take responsibility for your own emotions.
Be courageously and compassionately honest.
Don’t make assumptions with your partner, friends or colleagues.
Know what lights you up and do those things.
Be aware of negative patterns of behavior.
Disrupt those negative patterns of behavior.
Have someone to hold you accountable.
Be patient. Love will come in it’s own time.